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Thursday, November 17, 2005
Conversation turned to men and women and relationships and people cheating and why they do it. What makes up our motivations, desires, passions, unworthiness, disloyalty, principles, morals, weaknesses, strengths, emotions (or lack thereof) to actually betray someone we care about - do some people think it's a betrayal? Men (and women) can detach themselves from the emotional ties of having sex and JUST HAVE SEX...a concept of which I have never been privy to. Of anyone I know that has cheated on someone and it hasn't involved emotions (one night stand, hookers, etc.) it has been JUST SEX. Does their partner not satisfy their needs, satiate their passions, are they not open to adventure...
But it is none of these things. It is sex. And, apparently, the ~switch~ can be shut off when needed.
However, when cheating involves any level of emotional ties, there is a problem...guilt can form. If their partner were likewise, emotionally involved with someone 'in that way', sex doesn't even have to be a factor - a kiss, a conversation, a touch...sex (penetration) or its lesser components (back to the bases) need not even play a part. It's cheating - plain and simple and even the cheater could not accept this in a partner, yet they can have sex with someone else and it can mean 'nothing'.
My one friend said it had happened in the past, but does not any longer (being the 'cheater', that is)...the need for ensuring his place in the figurative line of eligible bachelors no longer has to be redeemed every time a woman found him attractive/sexy/hot/charming, etc. He still is an eligible bachelor...but I think he grew up. I like him better this way.
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